I wouldn't be a woman's dream guy

My Paper Friday July 11, 2008 (A8 : My News : Home)
Jamie Yeo
ON citizen media website Stomp this week, their Star Bloggers were to give their views on this question: Let's say your gender has been switched. What kind of life would your like to be living and what kind of person would you be in your new gender?
The writer wrote:

" If I were a man, I would be quite stressed.

It's hard enough looking after oneself in this day and age, but as a man, especially as a man living in an Asian society like ours, I'd be expected to look after everyone from my parents to my siblings to my girlfriend, or wife, and kids.

Plus nowadays, men are expected to share household responsibilities like cooking and babysitting while still meeting, required "male expectations", like being able to kill cockroaches, fix things around the house and carry the grocery bags.

And there’s more.

Men are also feeling the pressure to look good, earn more money, and possess more sensitive character qualities as women’s liberation marches relentlessly forward.

But still, no matter how stressed out I might be in my pursuit of manly success, I am confident I won’t do too badly as a guy.

Ultimately, I think I’ll be living a fantastic life as a man.

And I’d be just the type of filial, responsible, charitable, intelligent, tall handsome, well-groomed, classy, successful, sensitive-but-rugged (in other words, very sexy) guy all women and everyone else loves.

Even if I’m not conventionally handsome, I would possess enough charm and charisma to make up for it. I hope.

Also, the good thing about being a guy is that, compared to being a woman, your looks don’t matter as much as a winning personality and a wicked sense of humor – and maybe a fat bank account.

This brings me to my next point – money.

Unless you’re born with a silver spoon in your mouth, you have to study, work, plan, save to get, or have lots of money, to be successful by worldly definitions.

But being a man means you have to work (and/or pray) even harder because, like I mentioned briefly earlier, you’ve got a whole bunch of people to support and feed.

I know of some guy friends who are earning good money, but their parents very irresponsibly did not save much for old age and have no insurance or anything.

Whatever savings these guys have means little because at the end of the day, that money will go into supporting their parents in their old age.

That also means they can’t very well splurge on a big house or plan too much for their kids, and so on, right?

And speaking of kids – that’s a different story altogether which includes financial, educational and spiritual responsibilities.

Add the girlfriend or wife a man has to constantly pacify, please and romance, it’s a wonder men don’t walk around bald from all the hair-tearing stress.

Honestly, I don’t think I’d do very well as a man.

I would probably be exhausted most of the time from all the expectations.

I would be grumpy, slightly rude, cocky, and indifferent.

Romance? Who has time for it? I might as well stay home, relax and watch football!

Stressed? Yes, very! This means the need to have a few beers with buddies at the end of the day.

So in the end, I don’t think I would be a woman’s dream guy at all.

Thank God I’m a woman. "

notes:
being a guy is so hard, poor guys... JIA YOU! GAMBATTE!
thank God i'm a woman too... *phew*